Court Crushes: The Do’s and Dont’s of Dating in the Pickleball Community
Find love… without losing your doubles partner
Pickleball courts can be a surprisingly fertile ground for romance. Whether you’re smitten with that perfect backhand, the way someone cheers their partner, or just their easy smile between games, court crushes happen. But dating inside the pickleball bubble? That’s a game with its own set of rules.
If you’ve found yourself caught in the whirlwind of court crushes—or just want to avoid the common pitfalls—here’s a playful yet practical guide to the do’s and don’ts of dating in the pickleball community.
Do: Keep It Light and Fun
Pickleball is all about good vibes and friendly competition. The best way to approach a crush? Start casual. Chat between points, share a laugh, or suggest grabbing a post-game coffee or drink. No need to declare undying love after a single match—keep things playful, low pressure, and focused on shared fun.
Don’t: Let It Affect Your Game
Getting butterflies on court is sweet, but don’t let your crush throw off your focus. Whether you’re playing doubles or mixed doubles, keep your eyes on the ball and your head in the game. Flirting mid-rally might be cute, but dropping points? Not so much. Remember, your pickleball rep matters!
Do: Be Respectful and Communicative
If you decide to explore something beyond friendly smiles, clear communication is key. The pickleball community is tight-knit; word gets around fast. Be upfront about your intentions and feelings to avoid awkwardness on and off the court. And if your crush isn’t interested, respect their boundaries without making the scene uncomfortable for others.
Don’t: Date Multiple Players at the Same Time
It might sound obvious, but mixing romantic interests within your regular pickleball group can quickly lead to drama. Unless you’re ready for potential tensions, pick one player to focus on (or take a break from dating on court altogether). Keep the community’s harmony intact—that’s more important than any fleeting romance.
Do: Use Pickleball as a Social Icebreaker
One of pickleball’s best perks is how it breaks down barriers. Use your shared love of the game to bond, but also take the time to get to know your crush off the court. What’s their favorite music? Do they binge-watch true crime shows? Are they secretly a gourmet cook? Deepening your connection beyond pickleball sets a foundation that lasts.
Don’t: Gossip or Play the Middle Person
If you see a court romance unfolding—or hear about one—keep gossip out of it. Spreading rumors or playing matchmaker might seem harmless but can hurt reputations and friendships. Let people navigate their relationships privately and respectfully.
Do: Remember It’s Just a Game
Sure, court crushes add a spark, but don’t forget pickleball is a sport first. If things don’t work out romantically, don’t let it sour your enjoyment of the game or your friendships. Take a break if you need, but keep your paddle handy—there’s always another match, and maybe even another crush, waiting.
Dating inside the pickleball community is like any other social scene—full of potential joy and pitfalls. With respect, communication, and a sense of humor, you can enjoy the game and maybe even find a love match along the way. Just remember to keep your serves sharp and your heart open—but not too open to losing focus on the court!
